Acceptance is at the core of a large portion of the work you will do here in individual therapy. It focuses not just on oneself, but the acceptance of others, of situations, and everything in between. I believe that acceptance is only found through vulnerability. I understand that vulnerability can seem quite intimidating, but in therapy you will begin to understand that vulnerability is at the source of the beauty in your life. Individual therapy sessions are a great place for you to be vulnerable, to be heard, and to be validated without judgement or shame.
In individual therapy, as your therapist, I am on your side. I root for you, not the eating disorder, the cognitive distortions, or your inner critic. These struggles will try to throw shame into the equation and pull you away from vulnerability, but we will work together to continue on your path to acceptance and peace.
Regardless of if you are struggling with an eating disorder, body image issues, anxiety, or a combination of these, some of our work will surround building on the following areas to strengthen and cultivate your acceptance. I consider these my "ABC's of therapy":
Assertiveness: I believe in working towards helping you meet your needs, therefore putting an emphasis on developing and utilizing tools for you to assert yourself. Advocating for yourself plays a crucial role in acceptance.
Boundaries: Boundaries are essential to creating a safe personal space between oneself and those you interact with. I will work with you to set and hold boundaries that better serve you and your well-being.
Communication: Communication is vital to holding boundaries and strengthening your assertiveness. Together we can work on exploring communication styles and practicing the skills to enhance your experiences.
*I also use these focus areas in DBT/CBT Skills Coaching
As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself…The critical issue is allowing yourself to know what you know. That takes an enormous amount of courage.
-Bessel A. van der Kolk-